I am still wondering why my favorite comedian, Robin Williams, died suicide. Depression, they said. And, after reading many articles about him, I kind of understand his feeling. It’s easy to judge people but I learnt that he’s not happy. He worked so hard to help others and to be appeared as a funny entertainer……
“Robin spent so much of his life helping others. Whether he was entertaining millions on stage, film or television, our troops on the frontlines or comforting a sick child — Robin wanted us to laugh and to feel less afraid…..Robin`s sobriety was intact and he was brave as he struggled with his own battles of depression, anxiety as well as early stages of Parkinson`s disease, which he was not yet ready to share publicly. -Susan Schneider (Robin’s wife)”
And, it’s pathetic he held himself back to let others he’s having Parkinson’s disease until the end of his life. He was hiding behind his pleasant personality and fake his loneliness, his weakness, his shame. Rest in Peace, Mrs. Doubtfire.
Yeah, sometimes, I get myself in this trouble. It’s easier to please others than to please myself. I don’t validate that I agree with what Robin chose,- killing himself. I don’t know what he was facing, but I believe there’s always something to be grateful for. Many motivational quotes told us to surround ourselves with true and positive people, but hey, sometimes our true people are not always positive, and our positive people are not always true. Soooo how?
At my first weeks coming a prayer and counseling community, I was shock seeing people telling each other his/her insecurities. I also joined a public speaking club when people can easily share his/her moments of shame, make a joke from that, and give the listeners something to learn from his past mistakes.
They all are telling themselves without much consideration whether people care or people will judge them negatively. They show people their silly things without shame and doubt with all their heart, they let themselves to be seen, and they are happy with that.
So, I asked Sir Google the answer. After a whole day stumbling upon the internet world to learn about the correlation of happiness and showing weakness, I came across an inspiring video by Brene Brown in TED talk that was so insightful. It based on her research and the title were “The Power of Vulnerability”.
She said that after studying the data of very happy people, she found out that those people fully embraced her vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. They take a chance to show people who they really are. She mentioned that when people numb vulnerability, they numb joy, creativity, and everything. We don’t have to keep ourselves perfect from time to time. Just be authentic and real and tell people your stories. There is always a reason to feel not good enough. They know they are imperfect but worthy of love.
So, learning from Robin Williams’ sad story, there is always tendency to hide our shame, avoid showing weakness, and deny our need to ask for help. But, we cannot choose the emotions, just let it out, in a good way. People should embrace who they really are and believe that they are awesome. Hopefully they will find others to appreciate that and people would resolve insecurities issues that holding them back. The world needs more compassion.
Once again, may Robin Williams rest in peace. :)