Late Story in July: Hitting The Road

It’s been ages since my family rode some distances to explore new places. Already craving for hitting the road again for so long, we finally made the way for a four-days trip to Kuningan, Pangandaran, and Green Canyon. All the places are located in West Java. This journey was spontaneous, religious, adventurous, and memorable.

Spontaneous? We decided to go just few days before and did not have a well-preparation (very unlike me, anyway). We only had two copies of official printed map, a belief that we all (including the car we rode) were fit and a very high desire to go.

Religious? Our first destination was a place for Roman Catholic Pilgrimage and of miraculous healing in Kuningan, called Gua Maria Sawer Rahmat Cisantana. We were enjoying the cool weather and relaxing night since it was located on slope of Mount Ciremay.

Story of Day 1: Click here.. (will be updated soon)

Adventurous? Thinking about going back to Jakarta or going to somewhere else? Then, we decided to continue riding To Pangandaran Beach. We stayed there for 2 nights there, enjoying facing the Indian Ocean and did sneaking to Green Canyon. Next, we drove directly to Jakarta.

Story of the rest of journey: Click here.. (will be updated soon)

Memorable? We took pictures. We flashed unfamiliar city. We strolled the alley. We glimpsed the sea. We crossed new forested pathway. We got lost and stuck at traffic. We went together.

Our Travel Map

Day 1

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Day 2-3

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Day 4

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26 Lessons I Learned by Age 26

Following the mainstream activity to share the lessons learned so far as the result of birthday contemplation.

  1. Seek God’s first. He made you for a purpose. Find your purpose in Him.
  2. Love yourself. You are awesome.
  3. Don’t worry about future. Or know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum
    The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
  4. Love your parents and siblings just the way they were. They are God’s gifts to you as you are for them.
  5. Forgive bad things happened in the past. Remember past victories and expect better things in future.
  6. Be classy. Never settle for less.
  7. But, always give a room for improvement. Perfection is boring. Strive for excellence.
  8. Maintain curiosity. Explore yourself.
  9. Travel. Explore.
  10. Meet new people. Learn new lesson.
  11. Take a risk. You never know how far you can go.
  12. Meet your old friends. They remind you of how far you have gone.
  13. Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and in the end, it’s only with yourself
  14. Be nice to everyone since they have their own fighting.
  15. But, you cannot please everyone. You are not responsible for their happiness.
  16. Be selective with your agenda. Don’t waste your time chasing the wrong things or wrong people. Don’t lose something matters because something that doesn’t.
  17. People move on. Let them come and go. Appreciate the lessons they bring to you. And, make sure you bring positive impact to people.
  18. Don’t make too early commitment in everything the world may offer. Take time to get know more before you involve more.
  19. You don’t have to go out during weekend if you don’t want. Enjoy your lazy solitary time.
  20. Aim to be healthy, physically and emotionally. Keep yourself in check.
  21. Sing. Let your body dance.
  22. Smile a lot.
  23. Work for a better cause. Don’t work for money.
  24. Invest your money. Manage your portfolio well.
  25. Donate. When giving something, you’ll take something.
  26. Choose to be happy. You deserve it!

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Who Moved My Cheese?

Just being reminded by an old great video I watched years ago, “Who Moves My Cheese?”. It illustrates about life changes and delivers them in an epic animation.

When life changes to be more difficult, you must change yourself to be stronger. :)

Museum Nasional Jakarta Brings Up The Past

 

“Look back over the past, with its changing empires that rose and fell, and you can foresee the future, too.” Marcus Aurelius

A friend told me that he would volunteer as a tour guide at Museum Nasional Jakarta. I was puzzled inspite of the fact that my friend is a a foreigner who has been in Indonesia since 1970’s, a decade before I was born. I was impressed and believed that his general knowledge about Indonesia history must be deeper and wider than mine. When I told a couple of friends about this fact, they told me that they even never came to this museum. I feel relieved and sad at the same time. Relieved because I had visited the museum once and they haven’t. It means that I’m not really bad compared to my foreign friends and to my local friends. Sad, because I assume there are still many Indonesians don’t know that thstellycious-museumnasionaljakarta2is museum is existing.

Last year, in June, I visited this museum. It was on Saturday and I bumped into a group of elementary students, Korean couples and groups, and some local visitors. When I went there, the place was not really crowded, not really deserted as well. Perhaps, it was because it’s in school holiday season or because it was so close with Monas, the landmark of Jakarta. The entrance ticket was very cheap. It was 5.000 IDR for local adult.

(See the official websites for more information http://www.museumnasional.or.id/ )

The collections were amazing. On the first floor, I noted it varies from Buddhism/Hinduism statues, miniature of traditional houses from one tribe to another, a display of traditional musical instruments from one ethnic group to another, historical maps of Indonesia, antique porcelains from all over the world, and a large enough green fields in the middle. I didn’t pay for the tour. I read the stories written on the board or overheard what a guide said to the group. Looking back to my visit, I found that this museum was very resourceful to learn more about Indonesia history.

Not only the collection, they often hold a special event or exhibition there. For example, when I came, they have photography competition at the other hall.

I didn’t check the second floor since it was a bit creepy, for me. There was no people when I was about to going up. But, I learnt that there are 4 floors in that building. The second provides Science and Technology, third provides Social Organization in Indonesia from one era to another, the fourth provides Gold Objects and Ceramics.

Yes, I’d really love to go to that museum again someday to get a complete observation on all floors.

Going to Museum Nasional Jakarta can be a new alternative to spend a weekend in this town. It’s far much cheaper than going to the malls or hitting the cinema. It could be a good activity to kill the time. It hopefully can give you more knowledge and fun to know about how far a country, often referred as the world’s largest archipelago, has been going up to now.

FYI, they provide tour in English, French, Korean, and Japanese language. Tour in other languages can be provided upon request. Interested? Who knows you’ll enjoy the tour? Who knows you’ll volunteer yourself as a tour guide, as well? Who knows what “future” will bring from the “past”?

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“Study the past, if you would divine the future.” Confucius

Restarting Jakarta Museum Series

So, these days it seems that I’ve got a natural call to write again about my visit to the museums in Jakarta. It’s been a year since I blew my intention away to write a review about each museum in Jakarta. Why? Because I couldn’t take pictures inside… No pictures, no stories.

And, I wonder if I could sneak a snap inside the museum and broadcast it so the people know what they can learn, see, and do in the museum. I have a good will, right? But, it’s against the law and it will set a bad example to the readers. So, can’t I share the beautiful things I saw inside on my blog?

But…..

I’s an era when people generously share things easily.

It’s an era when you hardly can stop people taking pictures

It’s an era when people come to a certain place because the reference they get from the others coming first.

While wondering, Google, as always, helped me to find out why people can’t take photos in the museums. I found it’s related with copyright issue, security issue (that maybe potentially rob), or a real experience to really spend the time in the museum. Well, some of the reasons are indeed arguable. Luckily, I found this interesting and educating blog randomly and I can say that I agree with the writer. 

So, coming from the statement mentioned in that link, “If it doesn’t spread, it’s dead”, I think I need continue to write my Jakarta museums’ tour though it will be a bit tricky when I want to mention the beautiful things I saw during my visit without any pictures. Hopefully, it can be published soon enough and reach people to come to appreciate what museums can offer.

The Power of Vulnerability

I am still wondering why my favorite comedian, Robin Williams, died suicide. Depression, they said. And, after reading many articles about him, I kind of understand his feeling. It’s easy to judge people but I learnt that he’s not happy. He worked so hard to help others and to be appeared as a funny entertainer……

“Robin spent so much of his life helping others. Whether he was entertaining millions on stage, film or television, our troops on the frontlines or comforting a sick child — Robin wanted us to laugh and to feel less afraid…..Robin`s sobriety was intact and he was brave as he struggled with his own battles of depression, anxiety as well as early stages of Parkinson`s disease, which he was not yet ready to share publicly. -Susan Schneider (Robin’s wife)”

And, it’s pathetic he held himself back to let others he’s having Parkinson’s disease until the end of his life. He was hiding behind his pleasant personality and fake his loneliness, his weakness, his shame. Rest in Peace, Mrs. Doubtfire.

Yeah, sometimes, I get myself in this trouble. It’s easier to please others than to please myself. I don’t validate that I agree with what Robin chose,- killing himself. I don’t know what he was facing, but I believe there’s always something to be grateful for. Many motivational quotes told us to surround ourselves with true and positive people, but hey, sometimes our true people are not always positive, and our positive people are not always true. Soooo how?

At my first weeks coming a prayer and counseling community, I was shock seeing people telling each other his/her insecurities. I also joined a public speaking club when people can easily share his/her moments of shame, make a joke from that, and give the listeners something to learn from his past mistakes.

They all are telling themselves without much consideration whether people care or people will judge them negatively. They show people their silly things without shame and doubt with all their heart, they let themselves to be seen, and they are happy with that.

So, I asked Sir Google the answer. After a whole day stumbling upon the internet world to learn about the correlation of happiness and showing weakness, I came across an inspiring video by Brene Brown in TED talk that was so insightful. It based on her research and the title were “The Power of Vulnerability”.

She said that after studying the data of very happy people, she found out that those people fully embraced her vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. They take a chance to show people who they really are. She mentioned that when people numb vulnerability, they numb joy, creativity, and everything. We don’t have to keep ourselves perfect from time to time. Just be authentic and real and tell people your stories. There is always a reason to feel not good enough. They know they are imperfect but worthy of love.

So, learning from Robin Williams’ sad story, there is always tendency to hide our shame, avoid showing weakness, and deny our need to ask for help. But, we cannot choose the emotions, just let it out, in a good way. People should embrace who they really are and believe that they are awesome. Hopefully they will find others to appreciate that and people would resolve insecurities issues that holding them back. The world needs more compassion.

Once again, may Robin Williams rest in peace. :)

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